Why One Must Marry

Over the years an individual has grown, he or she has gained a lot of experience in life, ranging from education to maintaining relationships. There comes a particular time period when they start to contemplate whether it is now time to settle down. On some occasions they wish to choose the partner themselves or they let the family decide. It is also common in some cultures that the family takes over the entire matter. Marriage is no simple decision as it appears. During childhood it may come off as a fairy tale for some people of living happily ever after with their soul mate, the reality of it is very different. You are not simply bringing in two individuals together but their entire social circle as well. There are a lot of expectations behind this from the ones being wed along with their families. Making a marriage last itself is very difficult as both must now get accustomed to one another and make a great deal of compromises for the sake of one another or in the later years their children.

Since marriage is no easy task, people ask themselves when exactly is it the best time to settle down. This debate leads to discussions about different factors that influence this decisions be it social, religious, biological and even political. Let us first break these factors down to have an easier understanding beginning with social reasons.

mixscoopWhen it comes to social reasons, marriage is known to bring together different communities together and uniting them by joining in holy matrimony. So the bond that is established is no small matter and does in fact go a long way. There have been countless stories where rivalries amongst groups have come to end because their members decided to settle down with one another.

All religions across the globe have encouraged marriage in different ways, be it Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism and so on. They all encourage the notion of bringing two people together and settling themselves together. Some believe that there are benefits that man and woman can achieve from one another during marriage that will help them in life, such as teaching each other things they are not aware off. Religions encourage marriage because it also leads to the birth of children. This helps continue the society and the parents can learn a lot from raising children.

When assessing biological reasons, marriage much to the surprise of many does it indeed helps in some ways. Two people are giving permission to engage in sexual intercourse with one another, which provides health benefits, and as mentioned before paves way for creating children. Some theorists suggest that the healthiest times to have a child in fact is when you are young so this is probably why couples get married at an early age.

Politically based marriages may not be the norm as they were once many years ago, still at times play a role, as many friendships and alliances have been formed amongst countries simply because members of their royalty got together in holy matrimony.

Marriage, a Dying Art?

Marriage, an institution that not only brings together two individuals but communities as well. This act of holy matrimony dates back to many hundreds of years ago in times when people wished to bring together two young souls together and help continue the cycle for generations to come. Marriage is a universal culture; there may be differences from some places to others in how it’s done, its intent and purpose remains the same.

In today’s world many believe that marriage is becoming a dying art as most marriages end mostly in divorce or are losing popularity. Most of the new generation feels it’s an old custom that doesn’t blend into the norms of today calling it ‘old school thinking’. There have been many researches carried out o explain why has this culture which has been practiced for so many years, becoming obliterated at such a fast rate.

ringsThe very first assumption is that of social changes in culture along with technological innovation is a reason. For the last 100 years the world has seen the change of women rights from simple demand to vote, to demanding equal rights in many fields. Due to this some women can now economically provide for themselves and feel they no longer need men to provide for them. This shift of economics has also let women in some occasions to marry at a much later age. Some wonder how technological innovation plays a role in the institution of marriage; the internet is a good example. Experts have proven that due to the unlimited nature of options in the internet, it has taken effect on people psychologically. This generation is very indecisive in comparison to the previous ones and always feels that there is a better option somewhere else. Some believe that the internet has made people more selfish and keen on recognition from others leading to self insecurities at a high rate.

Instead of marriage, dating and cohabitation has been taking more root in the new generations’ way of life. People feel they should know the person first before they want to settle down. It is surprising as to how most cohabiting couples have more results of separations than that of marriage. The constant nature of delaying this major step results in some people feeling that they have crossed that ‘suitable age’ and it is best they spend the rest of it on their own.

Some do deliberate that perhaps divorces are becoming more frequent due to the availability of divorce in some countries than it was years ago. The change in law has made it easier for women to ask for a divorce.

Other theorists believe that the fast paced, capitalist world of today doesn’t give enough time to people to settle down as they are constantly hammered with a great of stress from work and other factors, some in the process vent it out at their spouse resulting in arguments and quarrels.

Therefore marriage may not be extinct yet, but at the current rate there is no denying its losing its hold in people’s lives.